Friday, August 31, 2007

YEA!!!! The Little Einsteins Did It!!




A proud day in the VanLue house as we finished our first week of school and it was a great success! Katie transitioned wonderfully into her 2 morning a week preschool. This week they painted with shaving cream and made yellow circles. Do we hear a big "whoooo-hooo" for Katie? Her teacher's sister leaves Monday to go to China for her very own little doll! Kristin in K4 had 'beach week'...complete with sand art and pudding buckets with gummy bears. Kristin looks like the Florida, blonde and tan beach babe these days so she fit right in! (no bikinis allowed:)) She also informed us that the class hermit crab stayed out of his shell all day. Excellent observation skills, Kristi! Leni, you will see blowing bubbles and experimenting with them. She's our science/animal girl. And yes, there's still the tadpole issue in our yard.....:( Anyone need an amphibian from Leni's Tadpole World?! (just thought I'd ask....just in case you were shopping for one). We learned how St. Bernard dogs were bred for rescue purposes before there were vehicles, and she did lots of cutting and pasting. I don't know what yall are thinking at this point but......we smell Harvard!!! :) Although, I don't know if even Harvard is ready for Kristin!:) Elle Woods ain't got nothin compared to our blondie!

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Making Lovely That Which the World Deems As Unlovely.......


This is an excerpt from a book I recently read.....'A Steadfast Heart' by Elyse Fitzpatrick.

"In 1895, a young, godly woman, Amy Carmichael, was commissioned by the church of England Zenana Missionary Society to go to Dohnavur, India, where she served fifty-six years as God's devoted servant-all without a furlough. A major part of her work there was devoted to rescuing children who had been dedicated by their families to be temple prostitutes. [Please think for a moment about the realities of the harsh existence these children faced every day. I recently spoke with a pastor friend who had visited parts of the world where this type of prostitution is still in effect today.] As Amy worked with the destitute Indians, she realized God had given her a love for those that the world had deemed unlovely. God used the overflow of this love to start the Dohnavur Fellowship which became a place of safety and refuge for temple children. More than a thousand were rescued from neglect and abuse during Amy's lifetime....The world in which she lived was often dangerous and stressful, yet she never forgot God's promise to "keep her in all things." Amy spoke of dark days "when the sky turned black for me because of what I heard and knew was true. Sometimes it was as if I saw the Lord Jesus Christ kneeling alone, as He knelt long ago under the olive trees...And the only thing that one who cared could do, was to go softly and kneel down beside Him, so that He would not be alone in His sorrow over the little children."

There is no question from reading scripture that God's heart is near the poor, needy and orphaned of this world. I was deeply saddened during our 20 day trip to China last year with the realization of how "lazy" the American church has become as a whole. Prosperity can make us fat and lazy, or can be a catalyst launching us into "good works prepared in advance for us to do." I remember almost feeling guilty walking into my wonderful Publix grocery store after experiencing the poverty and lack of the Chinese......AND the ironic feeling of holding Katherine in both places. The richness of my America vs. the stark poverty of her birth country was profound.

We purposfully do not disclose details of our 2 domestically adopted daughters histories. What I can say is that both were horrific, beyond what even my mind could think of, or had seen up to that point. One daughter in particular still lives with ongoing effects of this past maltreatment.

Like Amy Carmichael and others who have gone before her, I want to model Christ in all my efforts towards the afflicted. It's a pleasure to honor my Lord by laying down my life for the 'least of these.' My time is not my own. It's God's. Amy Carmichael made God's business her business. It was done not for the praise man gives, but her gaze was upward towards her heavenly father....constantly beseeching Him for the next child....the next step.

As a mom, you will not find me on every ladies committee, volunteering at every event, seeking to make a name for myself at every opportunity given. I have no desire to be "fulfilled" in external ministries or fill my time with busyness that isn't eternal or only craves man's attention. So where will you find me? Being a mother to the formerly motherless. Nurturing little souls bound for eternity. Fixing little broken hearts, knowing these fragile wounds take time to heal. Telling them softly at bedtime how their savior loves them so much he died on a cross......for them. Putting 100 band-aids on countless boo-boos. Watching their earthly father indulge them a little too much...with a secret smile between he and I because we both know all circumstances they came from...and the God who brought them home. Rocking my little China doll that is no longer living her life existing in an orphanage. Homeschooling...again...with a giant smile this time because I feel the pleasure of God in these little girls. Being patient...just as God has been with me. Loving those he's placed before me.....praying for those left behind, and seeking ways to serve those still in need. Making my expectations God's, not man's.....not caring if my deeds go unobserved. Because you see...these girls, like the countless thousands of orphans and abandoned children around the world, represent great treasure to our Heavenly Father. I'm deeply indebted to Amy Carmichael (and others) who lived their lives unashamed of the gospel....and fought valiantly for the vision God had placed before them. After a trip to visit the Donavhur Fellowship, Elisabeth Elliot said this about Amy Carmichael. "The meaning of the living sacrifice, the corn of wheat, the crucified life, had been shown to us in twentieth century flesh and blood." (from Keep a Quiet Heart by E. Elliot)

So.......where will you find me? Not a hard answer at all. You will find me 'making lovely what the world has deemed unlovely'.....one life at a time.
"Pure and lasting religion in the sight of God our Father means that we must care for the orphans....." James 1:27


Friday, August 24, 2007

Meet the Teacher Day for the Oreos!


Today was meet the teacher day for our first big day of preschool next Monday! Kristin is in K4 and Katie is in the 2's. Leni's teacher for Kindergarten will be her very own personal Mama! They are sooooo excited! We have a wonderful Christian Preschool just a few minutes away where the two youngest will go. Both have great teachers and can't wait to start! I was a little worried about Katie because she seems to get a little anxious and clingy without me.....but that little ladybug walked right up to her teacher...said "HI" and took control of the classroom dollhouse! Here are our 'oreo girls' in Kristin's new classroom doing what they do best! Kristin directs the show....Leni can't decide between princess or policeman, and Katie is just so darn cute! Looks like we're going to have a great year ahead!

Saturday, August 18, 2007

Look No Further! We Have the Next American Idol!


Katie loves to sing and do hand motions to songs. We were watching tv the other night and a very bad "beat boxer" was on. Sooo....along with the other girls, we added our own "beat boxing" to Katie's current favorite. Lots of snorts, chuckas, and booming bass sounds and something like a screech meets a drum. Here she is now doing a rousing rendition of that great southern spiritual "Deep and Wide" complete with sounds that aren't normally there! She now thinks this is how the song is really supposed to be! What makes this even more special for us is that Katie has been a pretty serious child up to this point. At least the most serious of the 5. Still think so?!

P.S. We're in Florida....surrounded by water...(and hurricanes but that's beside the point right now:)) so....we're going to do what Floridians do, and go play in the water for a few days. We'll be in touch at the end of the week!

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Giant Dogs Save Young Girls From Wild Animals On Camping Trip!!!!


For the Intellectual Crowd :)

I've been trying to do this post for a while now. Life keeps getting in the way!:) This summer has been a true gift from God in that we've had some genuine time to focus thoughts and actually do some intense study and reading. Scott and I are both avid readers and have sought to instill that in all our children as well. Due to the busyness of our lives, we try to be purposeful with our time and not be frivolous with this precious gift God has given. Once used, you don't get it back !....So we choose to invest our time (hopefully) wisely to further His kingdom. "We have but so little time in this world." [quote by Jeremiah Burroughs]. I try to keep this thought ever before me as I plan out my days. Today is a list of the mainstream books we've been reading and why. For me, I try to always keep a Christian Doctrinal study going in addition to my regular quiet time...and then also pursue something secular that would benefit our family...whether that be cooking, schooling, discipline issues, adoption, etc. (yes, some do overlap :)) Here is this months secular selections we've been reading.

Scott's List-
1. Einstein by Walter Isaacson. Scott loves biographies...especially ones about minds that were in the forefront of ideas & visionaries of their day. This book is candy for my husband. It is not casual reading but digs deep into the Einstein brain thing. I prefer Baby Einstein myself :) Find both at your local bookstore :)

Cissy's List
1. Nurturing Adoptions by Deborah Gray. This is a brand new book out just this month and is a MUST READ for all those who have fostered/adopted or are considering it! I wish it had been out 6 years ago. It deals with the effects of trauma/neglect/disruptions from infancy on....and how the brain responds (excellent, excellent research and studies out now!) She discusses attachment issues, grief, prenatal exposures....and points out that many symptoms may not appear for years. I think we have a tendency to expect children to suddenly "bounce back" when placed in a loving, nurturing environment...and Ms. Gray points out that this is possible but rare...and shows how there can be ongoing symptom "clusters" for years to come.
"The children who are the focus of this book are unlike children who may have had just one overwhelming event occur in an otherwise advantaged childhood, in that they experience the complications associated with repeated relationship disruptions and attachment challenges interrelated with trauma." Deborah Gray
We have 3 adopted girls. One was in 6 (and that's just what was documented) homes in her first 7 months of life. We were her 7th and final placement. One daughter was placed in our arms at birth...and one was in orphanage care for her first 11 months. All three were in compromised prenatal conditions. This book helps take the torn fragments of little lives and piece them together scientifically with the newest information to help us along this miracle of adoption journey we are undertaking. Highly recommended!

2. China Ghosts by Jeff Gammage. This is a mainstream book available at any bookstore and is also new. Jeff is a reporter for a Philadelphia newspaper and "just happened" to use the same agency we did. Anyway, this is his tale of adopting his two girls from China. Although I do NOT agree with his personal beliefs...let's just leave it at that :) I will say his writing style, descriptions, and experiences are a great read. He tells you through print what I wish we could describe to you about our journey. After all, he's a professional writer....I'm not. Much, much is the same in thought and action, and their experiences are not unlike our own. He made me want to go back!!!!

More to follow :)

Sunday, August 12, 2007

Day 12~ Yes, We're alive!

Ok, someone here has been sick with a really weird virusy thing for 12 days....I've been counting. It started with Kristin....and proceeded to last a long time with each person and didn't spread very fast. Now, everyone but Julie has had it. Katie got it last and is running a low grade fever now. I will spare you the multitude of symptoms but trust us (uh...gross!!) we're hoping to be at the end. Time will tell. For 12 days, someone has been sick, with the majority being well, all at the same time. It makes for a hard dynamic for normal life (whatever that is!!)You can't go anywhere because there's someone sicko that has to go with and can't, so the well people go crazy while the sickly one(s) suffer. Sad, sad, sad.(Do I hear violin strings playing for mama??) Here's some pics of what we've been doing....not much :) Although, for you that know all the girls stories...in the rough moments of these past days..I keep thinking about the individual attention they're getting now, vs. where they were...and it is a huge motivator to 'press on'. I do wonder if anyone held Katie when she was sick at the orphanage. Anyway, she's the velcro baby now!!:) Held CONSTANTLY:)Miss Leni's asthma kicks in with stress and it seems better today...and Kristin is back to her usual blonde ambition! The parents, however, could use a cruise....any donations?? Anyone? Anyone?


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Friday, August 10, 2007

Leni's Tadpole Story~


While our life has been anything but fun this week, I thought I'd share something funny that happened. Leni discovered a batch of tadpoles in rainwater in the deflated waterslide in our now nasty, overgrown backyard that we don't get to play in much because of the heat. She's been watching them religiously and they're doing quite well we must say. Earlier this week she picked up a few and transplanted them into a different container. Then she decided her tadpoles were dirty and needed a bath. SOOOO.....she bathed those tadpoles....in Joy diswashing liquid....then gave them bubbles to swim in because bubbles are so much fun aren't they?!! She was so proud and paraded Mom out to see her happy tadpole children...rather happy D-E-A-D tadpole children (she didn't realize the dead part) and told mom their names, how they liked to swim this way and that...etc. not once realizing they were in tiny tadpole heaven. After, Mom had to explain the ins and outs of tadpole rearing to a 5 year old who hates to see anything die....we now have a new container of tadpoles thriving in "dirty" water. And a again happy (but very asthmatic) 5 yr. old!!

Monday, August 6, 2007

Laying Low~ updated



Ok....mom's been here since Friday with one sick girl or another (and glad to do it:)) however we have read many books, painted toes, cleaned closets, played with lots of toys and the troops are getting bored (mostly me:)) Kristin is fine today and decided to have a "garage sale" with the newly sorted animal collection mom put together. She was so cute! She set up a stand in the driveway ...with change in a money cup for potential buyers...got all her animals 'just so' and proceeded to sit there for 2!!!! hours! (on a Monday morning...not exactly garage sale day)...anyway, she came back in saying she didn't know why "no buyers had come around"....so Mommy got on the phone and got her a buyer.Yet again, Julie came to the rescue! We had a very happy 4 year old!! Anyone need a spare cow, horsey, pig, or maybe an alligator mixed in??!! Could we interest you in a hippo? This girl's got what you need! BTW, Katie is sitting behind Kristin putting an entire box of band-aids on one leg. Sorry...no photo available.:) (Leni was inside, now at 103',watching her new favorite Wee Sing video from Miss Kathy :) She was a sick, sick, puppy today :()

Laying Low~

Well, Scott and I went on our first date night in a while on Friday night. Just as we were about to enjoy it :) we got the call from home that Kristin was "throwing up buckets". Poor Julie (who had them and handled it REALLY well)!!...Julie took control and will be an awesome mom one day with all this experience!! Anyway....no fun for us this weekend as Kristin ran a 103' fever Saturday ...then on Sunday, Leni fell asleep in the chair (hmmmm....wierd) so now she has it. Today hers is 102.
We're just glad they're still happy while sick....although Mommy's going a little stir crazy!! Someone get me out of here! :) Katie's so far fine and neess to run around somewhere!!